The Hypersensitive or Emotional Parent Type
Oh darling, I feel your pain on this one (she’s my mother). In a word, they are a child.
It feels very much like YOU are the parent in this relationship, and they are a tantrum-prone diaper baby.
A Hypersensitive or Emotional Parent shares some things in common with the other three types: they are primarily focused on their own needs, demonstrate limited empathy, have little to no self-awareness or self-reflection, and conversations are usually one-sided and centered on them. Naturally.
They tend to have little respect for boundaries and will be either too close and smothering—clinging to you like a barnacle—or too distant—keeping you at arm’s length.
They are usually uncomfortable with any kind of real intimacy or affection.
They are highly defensive and completely unopen to criticism or taking responsibility for their bad behavior.
They slap you too hard in the face, for example, and you cry and tell them they hurt you, but their response is, “Well, then you shouldn’t smart mouth me.” Or otherwise, completely avoid any real response with a blanket statement of, “If you wanna cry, I’ll give you something to cry about.”
The special sauce this whiny, weepy, or over-reacting parent brings is…
a tendency to react explosively or cut you off, possibly with a scary and intimidating intensity or just intense levels of emotion in general… including crying.
They cry or exhibit anger constantly to always get their way.
They seek to have you comfort them with little thought of your needs.
They like to pretend they are not trying to control things and see themselves as a victim. Including being the victim of you, their own child, “Why is my daughter so mean to me?”
This parent CAN be narcissistic, but usually in the deflated ego kind of way. The extreme sense of low self-worth and poor me kind.
Their parenting motto might best be summed up as:
“You are my helper and comforter; don’t ask me to think about your needs.”
Congratulations on uncovering your unique emotional journey with the Hypersensitive or Emotional Parent.
If the constraints of your upbringing are impacting your marriage and career, you’re not alone.
Good parents will set us up for life, but bad parents like these can set us back, sometimes for decades.
Especially in our closest relationships or career ambitions where we might unwittingly be acting out some of the same low EQ programming they “gifted” us as our inheritance.
No matter what we do, we just seem doomed to fail, and we don’t know why we keep sabotaging every good in our life, too.
If this sounds at all like you, then you might enjoy listening to The Romance Mystic’s podcast “Messy Middles.”
Imagine embarking on a transformative adventure with our podcast and vibrant community, tailored to help you conquer the specific challenges this emotional legacy may have posed in your marriage and career.
And you get to help us build it, too!
Read on to see what I mean…
About the “Messy Middles” Podcast, hosted by Kiddo Elliott, The Romance Mystic…
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We delve deep into ONE of the 111+ top marriage challenges as outlined and shared with all my email subscribers in the free illustrated guide: 111+ Marriage Dragons and How to Slay Them.
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Our mission here is to inspire TRUE love between the sheets… and divine cooperation between the sexes.
WEEKLY GUIDE, CHECKLIST, WORKBOOK
After each episode, I’ll compile this collective wisdom into a comprehensive, action-packed guide and workbook dedicated to that particular challenge.
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Ask questions, groan over my LOTR references, and connect with peers who understand the journey we’re all on—the journey to break free from the challenges imposed by careless, immature, selfish, narcissistic, or loveless parenting during our most impressionable years. A childhood without role models, adult guidance, or much love.
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Til next time, Sunshine, I wish you love!
Hasta la Pasta + XOXO,
