Is Your Parent Emotionally Immature, Really?
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(then I'll tell you how to find out what TYPE of parent you have)
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Helping YOU Crush
the TOP 7Love Killers . . .
I'm Kiddo Elliott, the Romance Mystic.
To inspire TRUE love between the sheets . . .
& divine cooperation between the sexes.
Basically, I'm here to help YOU
without too many big regrets . . .
Married for decades to the best kind of person you still get butterflies being around.
Surrounded by your many wonderful children and grandchildren... (that aren't still living in your house, lol).
And doing work you love that helps make it all a breeze financially.
No money worries, just a great legacy left behind for your family & the world when you go.
GETTING YOU TO MISSION ACCOMPLISHED
What can I do to help you accomplish all this?
I can help you make the choppy, muddy waters of marriage and dating calm & clear.
I can help you claim your chosen purpose, and design your own unique vision for your life, then keep your motivation to make it your reality burning bright.
I will root for you and believe in you 100%, like no one else, no matter what.
It's my super-power!
I'll never allow you to give up on you because I KNOW you can do what you dream.
AND I can share with you some very potent but simple and practical methods and techniques—along with a whole lot of one-of-a-kind insights from my studies in the premier modern day mystery school and the school of hard knocks (I'm a long-time student of both!)—to navigating the TOP 7 CHALLENGE AREAS or 'LOVE KILLERS' in all romantic relationships. . . .
You Stink at Identifying a
Truly Great Partner
All that is gold does not glitter . . .
Your modern dating and married life can seem pretty much doomed to fail. That's what all the statistics and most of our own experiences have seemed to prove, right?
It feels at best like a total roll of the dice, and at worst like a completely hopeless waste of time. So why even bother trying?
No wonder it's #MGTOW we opt for instead.
But I disagree. It's my observation that most relationship failure in modern times can be attributed to ONE THING: our complete failure to teach men and women how to identify and choose the best kind of member of the opposite sex to get romantically involved with in the first place!
Much less the one we should decide to make our life-long commitments to...
We're just like the clueless millionaire treasure-seeker in Indiana Jones: The Last Crusade, looking to pick the Holy Grail from among a host of glittering competitors based on the most thoughtless and shallow perceptions and assumptions.
Ultimately, letting some evil dumb brainwashed selfish blonde Nazi do the choosing for us.
And we wonder why our marriages struggle and fail like badly programmed computers!
We started off with bad inputs! (READ MORE HERE)
You Stink at Being a
Truly Great Partner
Not all those who wander are lost . . .
That's right. YOU suck.
Okay, probably not too badly or you wouldn't be reading something like this right now.
But let's get real . . . there ARE a few flaws and bad habits (maybe a crappy dead end job you ended up in by default), and bad ideas and attitudes about love and life that if you were to give them the boot, it would only massively up your odds of winning the heart of another truly great person like yourself.
The kind of person you DESERVE instead of the kind you keep SETTLING for because they showed a little interest in you first once upon a time.
AND you could make it that much easier for yourself if you were at least doing some sort enjoyable and useful, high demand work that made it super easy to pay the bills. Or at least gave you the necessary capital to invest in yourself more, so you can acquire the tools and training you need to go out and build the career, business, family and life of your dreams.
Or if you're already married and finances are getting in the way of your happy home life, what if you knew where to start to change all that? Wouldn't it be nice for money to be one less thing you and your spouse need to worry about anymore? And NO, I'm not talking about saving and scrimping your way out of debt, forever pinching pennies. I'm talking about having MORE income. Much more.
Don't beat yourself up over any areas you see need some work.
Most of us haven't had any great examples in our life, and we are taking a little bit longer to grow up, mature, and figure out who we want to be, and what work we really can and want to do.
Plus, we were all mislead growing up, in high school, and even in college... all being given the exact same career and money 'life math' designed to keep us poor, struggling, and dependent on someone else forever.
So even if you're over 40 and you STILL don't have your sh*t figured out yet, please let yourself off the hook. You aren't supposed to have it all figured out yet! If you do, it's almost a miracle!
A LOT of people today feel very awkward and anxious in pursuing meaningful, wealth-creating work... and definitely in approaching the opposite sex. Maybe just like you? I know I did once!
The good news is there is a simple way to transform your money and career woes starting immediately, AND there is also only ONE real social skill you need to focus on developing first: LISTENING.
Of course, there's lots more you can do to make yourself the best you can be, but I'll start teaching you the art of charming the pants off of others. And it's only as hard and as simple as learning to listen.
Beyond the art of listening, I'll strongly but lovingly help you see the opportunities in yourself that may also be costing you a chance at a great partner and marriage. Or throwing a wrench in the works if you're already married, but things have started sliding sideways on you lately. There will be no more mystery where you're going off course. It'll be as simple as identifying things off of a list.
I also won't be selling you any get rich or make money online offers or business opportunities or anything like that...BUT, I will give you a great starting place for thinking about your money and career in a whole new way, keep you inspired in choosing and pursuing your career purpose, and help set you free to make your financial goals a reality.
In other words, I'll help you get clarity and then get your mindset right, too, so you can go out there and be somebody... like you were BORN to do.
YOU are more INCREDIBLE and WONDERFUL than you realize!
I believe in YOU, and I'm gonna work to help you BELIEVE IN YOU, too... or I'll die trying.
You Forgot How to
Keep Having Fun
& Making Memories
Let's put the FUN back in your
dysfunctional marriage or defunct dating life
It's too easy to let time just slide by, and like the Pina Colada song, we can get stuck in "the same old dull routine."
You have to have FUN. You need to always have something you are both looking forward to experiencing together, and not just more stuff with the darn kids.
This is just for the two of you. Alone.
You can't just rely on your children's activities or chance (like when a friend invites you two out somewhere) to shake things up for you.
The kids won't be around forever. They WILL leave you one day and not come back (if you raised them right). But your spouse will always be there for you if you get this fun part right.
Like a friendship, sometimes YOU have to be the one to reach out and make things happen.
You make your friendships a priority, right? Your spouse deserves even better.
Make FUN a major priority. FUN requires some planning and some creativity. And not always, but yes, often it requires funds, too.
I'll give you all kinds of ideas, insights and inspirations to help you keep the fun flowing strong.
Let's keep making some wonderful memories to look back on while we always have something to look forward to.
You Suffer from
Boredom, Draught, or Insecurities
in the Bedroom
A 105-year-old Lady Assured Me
the Sex Should Just Keep Getting Better! *shudder*
Ah! Sex! SEX is actually "that blessed arrangement, that dream within a dream" the lispy bishop was REALLY going on about in the infinitely quotable movie, A Princess Bride.
Sex is the dream within the dream of an amazing marriage.
But it can be the nightmare, too, right?
I cringed when that centenarian lady told me how it just keeps getting better with age, but now at 40 years old, and 20 years into my marriage I think I am beginning to see what she meant.
There is a saying that the Devil does all he can to get couples to sleep together before marriage, and everything he can to keep them from having sex after marriage.
My own spiritual teacher talks about how sex within marriage is actually designed to help the soul evolve toward enlightenment, if approached the right way. We learn how the sexual energies are some of the most powerful energies at our command and can be channeled for incredible things. Especially for our art or sports or anything we are working to create... or procreate.
Some think being married is license to do anything we want with our spouse sexually. No rules.
Some think being married or having kids means the end of great and fun and exciting sex. That "marriage is a prison."
Some use sex as a weapon in their relationships.
Many are dying to get more or better sexual intimacy from their spouse but just don't know exactly how to say what they want, or even 100% what it is they are missing. They just know they are not satisfied.
We're gonna talk about all of this, and more.
I'm here to help you see there is no sex better than happily married sex, but there is also no connection more sacred or powerful either than the intimate connection between husband and wife.
In a way, sex is the foundation of all of society. So how we wield this mighty force within us matters, and it was designed to matter.
Porn and other cultural influences have ruined many of us as far as being the best lovers we can be or getting the most enjoyment & connection we can out of this sacred act.
I'll show you where porn has mislead you, and give you insight on how to put sex back in it's rightful place as the dazzling and exciting center of your marriage.
You Treat Your Man
Like a Child or Expect Your
Woman to Think Like a Man
Men and women are different for a reason,
and it's truly wonderful when you figure that out and work with it instead of against it.
You may hate me for saying this, but I'm always gonna tell you the truth, ladybug, and the truth is two-fold:
1) YOU are the one with the most power to determine whether your relationship fails or succeeds. You have nearly ALL THE POWER in the relationship!
2) BUT you do not have all the options that men do to waste your time blowing them off forever while you're young, or not learning how to keep the man you already have happy.
The hand that rocks the cradle truly rules the world. Civilization's existence, your children's health and brightest future, AND you're long term happiness are ALL within your power to command or to destroy. So waste no time learning NOW both how and WHY to wield that sacred power wisely before it's too late!
Here's what I mean...
Men can wait decades for success, then marry old to a much younger woman and still have a family of their own. They can also shop the world for brides eager to trade their love for the privilege to live in and raise their children in a country like the USA with all the advantages you take for granted. You don't really have these options.
So you can grow old struggling twice as hard as you need to chasing career and money success as a singleton, slutting and clubbing your nights away for go-nowhere-sex. Only to finally wake up in your 40s and realize all the great guys are taken... or shopping the Philippines for a younger bride model with a low to zero "body count."
OR you can date with discernment and purpose now to find yourself a wonderful life partner. Then the two of you can also be each other's perfect partner to help build that career and wealth success together. In other words, YOU GET TO HAVE IT ALL!!!
But if you already wisely chose to marry, there's this other thing. I don't care who you are, you are clueless at least in one of the NINE KEYS about how to really treat a man, understand him, and keep him happy. I've known too many women to see this is the case. Then, in frustration, the woman ends her marriage and tears apart her family. But my dear lady, you have ALMOST ALWAYS given up too soon on your marriage!
Unlocking just that last final key you are unaware of when it comes to "mastering men" so to speak could be just the tool you need to claim the most ULTIMATE power to win over and positively influence every man in your life. Starting with the most important: your hubby!
Lucky you, you are getting information straight from a woman--that's me!--who STILL has people everywhere tell her and her hubby, "You are the sweetest (happiest, cutest, etc) couple I have ever seen." Barf fest, I know, but I have to admit we really are only because I know how to make it so. I spent years early in my marriage learning about these nine keys to men and how to use them (uh, the keys--not men!).
That could be you, and in much less time. That WILL be you. If you want. Seriously if my once hopeless, pathetic excuse for a woman can do this, girl I KNOW you can.
Because maybe like you, I once had NO IDEA either how to stand living with or properly loving a man when I got married. I'd had ZERO examples. But that's why I was determined to figure it out. And I did.
There are 9 things you need to know about men and what they crave in a marriage to make them absolutely worship you forever. It's pretty simple and they will respond to these 9 things rather quickly, like magic, so don't worry--you are practically guaranteed to turn things around FAST, even if they have soured badly.
Make these 9 things your standard practice with every man you care for in life, and your marriage and all your male relationships will work beautifully.
Ready to earn your Wifey PhD?
Something like 85% of divorces are filed for by the wife. To be totally frank, while I like to think I am not on either partner's side but work for the sake of your children and unborn children, I am still a very strong "ally" for men in general.
I've just taken the time to get to know how you tick so much better than most women ever will.
This has helped me realize that MOST of the breakdown in relationships--contrary to what the very average woman likes to think--is NOT because of the man.
It's pretty much her, 80% of the time, because she really has SO MUCH MORE POWER than she has been trained to realize.
So in many cases, I take great issue with certain trends among modern women in general, and their attitudes toward men and marriage today. They are being lead off a cliff and they are singing on their way to it, to boot. Oblivious. They have been mislead and lied to.
But I don't wanna just butter the popcorn and watch them trainwreck their best chance at happiness and fulfillment: loving you and building both their family and their dream career ambitions simultaneous with you.
So you will see me come down hard on them as few of my fellow women will. Trying to snap them awake.
They have totally been suckered in by a feminist agenda that is determined to leave them all old, alone, ugly, unhealthy, and miserable, but most women haven't caught on to that yet.
When they do, it will be too late for them in this life, but not for you.
So let the gullible young women brainwashed by modern feminism keep teasing you, calling you incels and losers and babies. When they hit their mid to late 30s or 40s, they won't be laughing anymore. They'll be scrambling to nab any fool that will have them in hopes of avoiding the empty future they'll finally be able to see.
The one featuring just them, their dog, a vibrator, and a glass of wine, and a Netflix subscription.
But you men don't really have an expiration date.
You can afford to wait and your patience will be rewarded. It's one of the CRUELEST facts of life and I HATE it as much as the next woman. You can take decades to "grow up," get your sh*t figured out, build success, and then shop the world if you want for a young bride with a low to zero body count who will just feel like the luckiest woman alive to have snagged you.
But I don't think you should wait either. You just need to choose wisely now.
I was smart enough not to mess around, and claimed my perfect mate the moment I saw him when I was only 21 years old. It was the BEST decision of my life. Getting married young to your ideal mate is the BEST move possible. It will be the best decision of your life, too, IF you choose wisely and then learn how to love her so she never feels taken for granted. That's key.
So yes, I do come down on women for the failure of most marriages, and in part I blame laws that incentivize divorce and single motherhood. That's why choosing wisely—challenge #1—is more important for you MEN than it is even for WOMEN, because the deck is all stacked in her favor no matter what.
Start with a truly decent human being for a wife, and you're 80% all the way to mostly happily ever after! So I will show you how to date with discernment, even helping you calculate your own mathematical formula for spouse selection success. I call it your Zero Factors.
What if you've already made your choice? Then what?
Whether you have chosen well or you have a fixer upper wife, there is still plenty you can do in either case to bring out all the natural womanly goodness she has locked up inside and might just be afraid to let her guard down to show you. Or you've underappreciated her for so long it's just gone MIA.
Unless you are tied to a total psycho-bitch, women blossom like a garden when showered with the expressions of love in the forms they most appreciate.
There are 7 things you need to know about how to get along with a woman so resentments don't build to the point she's cheating, filing for divorce, taking the kids, and half of all you own plus child support while she moves on to sucker number 2. I'll fill you in.
These acts will not feel 100% natural for you to do, but do them and you will have the happiest wife on the block, and make all her friends jealous. Just like mine.
Your Thoughts Aren't
Every day, with every choice, you have to keep the ultimate end in mind.
YOU ARE A PIONEER
FOR YOUR GREAT GRANDCHILDREN
(or someone else's)
Nothing, I find, helps me sort out what matters more than imagining my deathbed. Covey called it (more nicely, I think) "beginning with the end in mind," but I like the imagery of laying on my deathbed.
It hits harder. Put things in sharp contrast, and clears the fog.
When I am on my deathbed, will I be thinking to myself...
...if only I had spent more time on Facebook.
...if only I had watched the news more.
...if only I had left my husband sooner and ripped apart my family so I could marry another guy who'd treat me like dirt and ultimately leave me for a younger woman anyway, so I'd be stuck living with my mother, a dog, and two cats ...
There are all kinds of distractions and temptations we in the modern age have to contend with that are unprecedented. Our ancestors never had such challenges.
Though at the same time they had their own, they pioneered and persevered so that we are the beneficiaries of their trials and errors and sacrifices.
You are a pioneer for your children and grandchildren. You have to find a way to meet everything this world will throw at your marriage and still stay together, happy, and in love. You will set the example for the future to follow.
It starts with committing. No matter what, you say, "I will not quit."
Unless he or she turns into a murdering, physically abusive psychopath (as opposed to the BS verbal or emotionally abusive crap people like to throw around), compulsive cheater, or a child molester/rapist (which won't happen if you choose wisely to begin with). . . WE WILL NOT QUIT.
THIS is it for us. TIL DEATH. PERIOD! You make that decision first.
We'll instead learn to "hold on through the hate" as I call it--those times that come to every marriage when you feel like it must surely all be over. It's your 'all is lost' moment as we call it in our fiction novels.
You literally feel like you HATE this person. You can't bear for them to even touch you again. The funny thing is, that feeling... it's just love planting new seeds.
Because seeds have to be planted IN THE DARK.
If your spouse is an overall decent person, and you feel you've fallen out of love with them, just hold on through the hate. DO NOT QUIT.
Address the issues. Open up and be honest but kind. Then, like a miracle of spring, your love for them is renewed again and expands even more. THEY become like the tall dark stranger you were thinking of leaving them for because you've learned something new about each other. You ARE new to each other.
Hold on through the hate and you will only grow happier, stronger, closer than before.
Thinking deathbed thoughts is just one tool that will help. I'll discuss all the various distractions and temptations of our age and how to deftly neutralize them. I'll teach you how to "hold on through the hate" and "fight nice" and "be the tall dark stranger" and so much more.
If you started with the best ingredients--two decent people of good character who love each other--you can do this.
You can stay together and live MOSTLY happily ever after for the rest of your lives. And experience it as the greatest blessing in life it was designed to be and not a chain around your neck.
Dude, alligators mate for life we just learned. If cold-blooded dinosaurs can do this, you can, too! And you're not missing out on anything when you grow a marriage like this.
You'll see instead, when you're enjoying your last moments on that deathbed, you've only gained everything. And you will be the envy of your neighbors, and the hero and heroine of your children and their descendants.
Save your marriage, and it is like you saved the world.
You Don't Know
How to "Fight Nice"
If you are a serious, loving couple then you ARE going to have fights.
But you gotta "fight nice."
Out of the many nuggets of wisdom I have gleaned from from my mother-in-law, this one is perhaps my favorite.
Shared with us on our wedding day, my sweet little Irish Mom-in-Love gave me and her son a heads up, "Just know you are going to fight. It's inevitable. But when you do, just be sure to fight nice."
Intrigued, I asked for clarification. Honestly, I thought the mark of a really good couple was that they "never fight" about anything. And I had certainly known some who liked to brag as much. You know those disgusting people, too, don't you? The liars!
Since then, and in part thanks to her insights, I have learned how damaging that idea is, and how it is also complete bullshit.
What's true is that every so-called "fight" a couple may have is honestly their very best opportunity to communicate, to learn more about each other, and to bond closer as a couple...IF they fight nice.
And couples that claim to "never fight" are exactly the ones who find themselves shocked when they end up in divorce court. Or the criminal courts for murder.
Why? Because the only reason they were "never fighting" is because at least one of them was never, ever, ever being fully honest or speaking up. Instead, resentments were just piling up as things got left unsaid because they just didn't want to rock the boat.
Don't just be a "nice couple." Nice guys (and gals) really do finish last, but fighting nice on the other hand will make your relationship last and BLOSSOM.
It's amazing. AND when you know you both have commited to fighting nice, it takes so much of the stress and drama out of the fights when you do have them because you know in the end it will end with you both getting what you want or need, and still loving each other.
So I will pass my Mom-in-Love's best bit of marital wisdom onto you, along with a few more things I have picked up about fighting nice.
It'll change ALL of your relationships forever for the better. WAY better.
I want to show you all that I've learned about how to find and keep the sort of romantic relationship and marriage you've always dreamed of - the kind people write songs about - or get it back if the love seems gone.
This is something I am uniquely equipped to do.
If you're curious as to why that is, do I have some tales to tell! Just read my bio on the About the Author page.
But I'm more interested in focusing on YOU . . . and what we can do together to start making your love life more like what you've always wanted, and less like what you might just have ended up with by default.
Here's to your lifelong happiness, with hope restored and love renewed.
Time for Me to Say 'Hasta la Pasta!'
Meanwhile, you keep thinking deathbed thoughts, my fellow Romance Mystic in the Making (and Mating)!
Til next time Sunshine, I wish you love.
What fans are saying
OMG this was so good!!! Write faster! I need this feeling every day.
I had the pleasure of being one of Kiddo's beta readers! Gotta say you did it. My toes were curling for sure. Felt so happy for the next few days after reading. Thank you!